Show Notes S6E23: Create a Life You Love with Stephanie May Wilson

by Rachael Adams | Jun 4, 2024 | The Love Offering Podcast Show Notes

As women, we’re often told that we’re entitled or unrealistic when we want to create a life we love. We start hearing this message from a very early age, and by the time we’re old enough to know what we want, we’ve also been taught to doubt our instincts and to see selfishness in all our longings.

This episode is the antidote to those voices and the way forward.

Writer, speaker, and podcaster Stephanie May Wilson is on the show helping us shrug off the pressure of what we think our lives are supposed to look like and take on the next big decision or life transition with intentionality and confidence.

Join us to learn how to:

Define yourself on your own terms by setting aside societal pressures that tell you who you’re supposed to be.
Feel empowered to make your next big decisions with confidence and clarity.
Build security and peace in both who you are and the season you’re in.

On today’s show and in her book, Create a Life You Love, Stephanie will help you untangle your own expectations from the expectations of others and get inspired to at last pursue a life that you’re excited to wake up to each day.

Summary

Stephanie shares her book ‘Create a Life You Love’ and the concept of the ‘Everything era’ for women aged 25-35. She discusses the pressure and significant decisions that women face during this time. Stephanie emphasizes the importance of realizing that there isn’t one right way to live a life and that individuals have the power to decide what fits them best. She encourages listeners to pre-decide what they want their life to look like and not to compare themselves to others. Stephanie also addresses the role of expectations and the impact of other people’s words and judgments. Creating a life you love requires a balance of short-term and long-term goals. It’s important to prioritize the journey and the destination. If you’re in a season where you don’t like your life, consider if there is hope on the horizon and if you’re working towards something you want. Stick it out and persevere. If you’re not happy with where you are and where you’re going, it’s time to make a change. Look for things you can modify or customize to make a difference. Remember that God is with you, working in ways you can’t understand and that He works for the good of those who love Him. Turn down the noise, find supportive people, and imagine what your life could look like.

Takeaways

The ‘everything era’ is a significant time for women aged 25-35 when they make major life decisions.

There isn’t one right way to live, and individuals have the power to decide what suits them best.

Pre-decide what you want your life to look like and don’t compare yourself to others.

Be aware of the impact of expectations and other people’s words and judgments. Creating a life you love requires balancing short-term and long-term goals.

Stick it out and persevere if you’re working towards something you want.

Make a change if you’re not happy with where you are and where you’re going.

Look for things you can modify or customize to make a difference.

Remember that God is with you and works for the good of those who love Him.

Turn down the noise, find supportive people, and imagine what your life could look like.

Quotes

“The everything era: a weird, wonderful, and wildly significant set of years where you make the majority of your most biographically significant decisions all at the same time and in front of a super opinionated audience.”

“There’s not one right way to live a life, not one exact one-size-fits-all mold that everybody fits in.”

“You get to decide. You get to make this look like us. What do we need? What do our kids need? What could this look like? But we get to decide.”

“Authority, agency, and creativity equal authenticity.”

“Setting boundaries is about what you’re going to do, not what the other person will do.”

“You can quit, keep trying, change tactics, or ask for help.”