A few weeks ago, I was complaining that I really wanted to bless a couple of women who were going through hard situations, but these women simply wouldn’t let me.
“I keep sending little texts offering to bring them a coffee or a favorite diet drink, but they keep kindly rejecting my offers! What can I do?” I asked my girlfriends, exasperated. “Part of me wants to leave an anonymous note in all caps at their doorsteps saying, LET ME BLESS YOU!”
Of course, shouting on paper doesn’t communicate generosity or kindness. We laughed and puzzled over the possible reasons why we met resistance trying to bless friends with coffees, dinners, and more. The three of us agreed that we loved to receive.
Why wouldn’t these well-deserving ladies let me bless them?
We bounced ideas back and forth, but I never came up with what I felt was a good reason for rejecting a gift. It was a comfort to confide in my friends about this odd kind of rejection, but I felt uncomfortable with the feelings and judgment I felt building up inside— screaming:
LET ME BLESS YOU!
Today as I paused to reflect, I realized I’d left out a key source—Scripture!
I clicked a few keys on my laptop and prayed over a long list of verses on the word blessing. Among them, one verse stood out:
“Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God.” Hebrews 13:16 ESV
In this verse, God opened my eyes to see a truth about blessing.
Blessings start and finish with the Lord! My desires to bless others might have started with the Lord, but they were ending with me as I lived in my disappointment.
The answer to the question, “Do I have the power to do good?” is always yes. But the ugliness I was living in as a result of being rejected was neither part of the giving, blessing, or honoring others, let alone the Lord.
LET ME BLESS YOU.
This time it was the Lord speaking to me.
My desire to do good and help a couple of friends in need was pure, but my emotional response when they weren’t willing or able to receive it, caused me to forget why I was offering.
When blessing friends is dependent on whether they enjoy, accept, or respond to my offers to help or do good for them, I may experience disappointment. But when I believe the Lord is empowering me to do good and share what I have, I learn to focus on honoring Him rather than on how others may respond.
Where am I in the act of doing good and sharing what God has given me today?
Lord, thank you for your generous gifts! Help me to remember that giving and receiving starts and ends with You. May I act with humility as you empower me to bless others.
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Amber writes on themes of mommyhood, being a wife, friendship, my Christian faith, fitness and nutrition.